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Challenge #26

28 Jun

-No soda/caffeine-

This week’s challenge is to give up pop and caffeine.  I think I need a clear head as I begin exams and I think this will be a good challenge for this week.  I’m allowing myself herbal tea and water only!  I actually think a cup of coffee a day is good for you, but I can try a week without it.  Pop, on the other hand, has got to go.  I have been thinking I need to kick that habit for years and I don’t know why I have a hard time letting the bubbly goodness go.  There’s nothing good in pop.  Nothing.  Especially not diet pop.  So, here goes nothing.  I’ll let you know how it goes.

Who’s with me?!

P.S.  I can’t help but notice that I am on challenge #26, which means we are halfway through the year.  Crazy.

Zoe Bears Fruit!!!

26 Jun

My first homegrown vegetable! I am in awe.

I will call him Zeke!

Like a lone cow in the field, or My date with myself

24 Jun

This week’s challenge was to plan a date with myself.  And plan I did.  Dan was getting home from Arizona tonight, so I figured this would be the best day.

Before I started my solo date, though, I met Ben for lunch for my birthday.  He took me to Northstar in Clintonville near his work.  I have to admit that it felt funny letting him pay for me.  It must be kind of what parents feel when at some point their kids, that they took care of for so long, are able to take them out for a meal.  I’m so proud of Ben.  He works hard and he’s doing so well for himself.  We both ordered Northstar burgers (duh) and had a really nice chat.  I love my little bro.  He also wrote a really nice note in my birthday card and made me cry a little.

Then my real date began.  I decided to visit the Book Loft in German Village.  I’ve been wanting to go there for a long time, but haven’t made the time.  This place totally exceeded my expectations.  First, in case you don’t know German Village, it’s a quaint neighborhood just south of downtown with lots of tiny little brick roads, one way streets and huddled brick houses smushed together in the most adorable way.  People take care of their homes and it’s actually a pretty exclusive place to live.  The Book Loft is on the main drag adjacent to two coffee shops and an adorable church that looks like it belongs in Boston.

The Book Loft

You enter through a gate with a German flag hanging nearby and walk through a flower-filled courtyard toward tables of books that are on sale and benches with people browsing Paula Dean cookbooks and no name romance novels.  Then, you enter the store and are drawn up a short set of stairs to another level where you have to wind through skinny hallways and tiny rooms full of books.  Each are has different music playing and racks of bookmarks and cards mingle among the thousands of books.  Eventually you wind back down and are directed to the other half of the store, 32 rooms in total.

Skinny hallway

The place is heaven, a whimsical, crowded, book-filled heaven.  I ended up with a book for myself and a couple of gifts for people.  Since parking is notoriously terrible in German Village, I was on a two hour time limit and I pushed it right to that limit.  As I headed to the cashier, one last item caught my eye.  A bookmark with Dorothy from the Wizard of Oz.  It doesn’t sound like a big deal, unless you know that the Wizard of Oz was sort of “my movie” as a kid.  I watched it too many times to count and I loved Dorothy.  There’s a quote from the movie on the bookmark:

If I ever go looking for my heart’s desire again, I won’t look any further than my own backyard, because if it isn’t there, I never really lost it.

Hmm.  My next stop was to Bexley, where I planned to go to a movie at the super cute Drexel Theater.

It's so cute, you could puke, right?

Bexley’s another nice neighborhood, like German Village, but ritzier.  It’s where the governor’s mansion and the president of OSU’s house is and it has an adorable downtown right next to Capital University, a small liberal arts college. It turned out that the movie started later than my iPhone app told me, so I had some time to kill.  I found a coffee shop just down the street to read my new book and kill some time.  They had an outdoor patio that was shaded and looked out onto Main Street.

Coffee shop view

It was just as I was sitting down to my coffee that I noticed that I had received an email from my 8th grade teacher (I wrote to her as part of another challenge).  It was a really nice email, and again, I cried a little.  I then spent an hour or so reading my new book by Rick Steves, Travel as a Political Act.  It’s fascinating.  It sort of reminds me of my challenges.  He looks at travel as a way to get out of yourself, to connect with the world, to realize that the way we do things isn’t the way to do things, just a way to do things, and of course, he sees this as having a positive political impact.  It also really got me craving a good “exotic” vacation (where are we going for our 30th, Beth?!?).  About 20 minutes before the movie started, I decided to putter around the neighborhood just behind Main Street.  It’s like a dream.  Old beautiful houses dripping with character.  I spotted three for sale and started plotting.  But, I made it to the movie without acquiring a mortgage.  The movie was called City Island and it’s about a guy from the Bronx that is secretly taking acting classes behind his wife’s back and she thinks he’s having an affair and hilarity ensues.  I really liked it.  When I got to the theater, though, I was the first person there.  I sat poking at my iPhone when an elderly couple walked it (this always happens to Dan and I, we end up at movies with old people, go figure).  The first thing out of the woman’s mouth when she sees me sitting all alone in the theater is, “Like a lone cow in the field.”  I looked back and laughed.  Aside from the fact that I was the cow, I thought it was a pretty accurate description of my day.

When the movie was over, I headed to my third date destination, Whole Foods in Upper Arlington, another cute, fancy area.  There’s nothing I like more than puttering around Whole Foods, looking carefully at their vegetarian options, examining the bulk beans and grains, and gazing at the cases of prepared foods.  I could walk around there for hours, but Dan gets over that real quick.  So, I figured this would be the perfect opportunity to eat some delicious pre-made food and browse to my heart’s content.  First, I went to the prepared foods area and got the green plate special for dinner.  It’s a special where you pay for the entree by weight and then you get two sides for two dollars.  It’s a pretty good deal.  Here’s what my “green plate” looked like:

Green plate special

It’s a black bean and rice burger with mashed peas and mint on top, grilled asparagus, and beet slaw.  Beautiful, no?  It’s like food art.  And it was perty tasty too.  The one bite of mint I had took me right back to my Grandpa’s garden and his little patch of mint that Beth and I used to tear up for “real” mint tea.  I read a bit more of my new book as I ate and then commenced Operation Putz.  I ended up with some tempeh, coconut yogurt, red and green lentils, and dates (Dan thinks that was very appropriate).  I also rounded up the ingredients to try a vegan version of Cincinnati chili!  It was a successful putz.  I putzed right up until they had to announce that the store was closing.  Why must it end?  Why?

So, that was my date.  It was great.  I spent time in three different places in Columbus that I have really come to love.  Columbus is growing on me in a big way and I have to remind myself to look around and enjoy how great my life is here, right now.  It was also nice to ask myself what I wanted to do and to let myself do it at my own pace.  I read in a book recently that we should treat ourselves like we would treat someone else.  Essentially, we should be kinder to ourselves.  I was thinking about that last night, if I treated myself more kindly, and I thought of this in a motherly way, so if I was my own mother, what would I encourage myself to eat for a snack?  What would I encourage myself to do to relax?  When would I encourage myself to go to bed?  And on and on.  I tried to do that during my date.  “Go ahead, Laurie, roll your windows down and enjoy the summer air.  Get a meal that nourishes your body.  Have a bit of ice cream, just don’t overdo it, you’ll feel sick later.  Make sure you get enough rest and stop stressing out about your exams.  You’ll do great.”  When I started thinking this way, it started to make me feel peaceful and happy.  I feel like I usually sort of yell at myself, push myself too hard, and overwork myself.  What if I were my own mother?  How would I take care of myself?  I need to start doing that.

So on my way home from my date, I stopped and got that bit of ice cream.  And, just as I was finishing up, Dan called, ready to be picked up from the airport.  And now my day is complete.  It was a good one.

Challenge #25

21 Jun

-Plan a date with yourself-

This week’s challenge is to plan a date with yourself. It’s a date to do whatever it is that you want to do and enjoy your own company while doing it. I haven’t decided exactly what it is that I will do, but I have some ideas. Since Dan is gone for the week again, I may as well try to entertain myself. Plus, it’s my last wistful week before I start The Exam Process, which means that this week I’m just doing a bit of planning and leisurely school reading, but for the next four weeks I will most definitely not be able to take myself on any dates. Here’s to celebrating your relationship with yourself. You know you love you.

Who’s with me?!

Zoe Update

20 Jun

Remember my zucchini plant, Zoe?  Well, I put her in a bigger pot, and I was afraid that she would wilt and die while we were the Hocking Hills, so I took her along.  And, I don’t know, there must have been something in that country air because she has QUINTUPLED in size (at least) and today she had an enormous orange blossom.  This plant thing is very exciting.  I can’t wait to have a garden someday.  Yay, growing stuff!

Patience = FAIL

20 Jun

This week’s challenge was to practice complete patience.  Insert maniacal laugh here.

Of all of the challenges that I have completed so far this year, this one has been the biggest failure.  I actually thought this “challenge” would be relaxing and less of a challenge, more of a chance to just let go, let things slide off my back, enjoy life, etc.  But, I found out that I have a REALLY difficult time letting something go.  I kept a log of all of the times I lost my patience this week and it was no less than 15 times, and that wasn’t counting when I was driving, which thankfully I don’t do that often.  Now, each of these times weren’t necessarily me going ballistic (actually, none of them were), just me losing my cool, snapping, when I was REALLY trying hard not to.  Paying attention to this though, did help me calm down faster, and recognize that I need to learn how to be patient.  I think I’m getting a teeny tiny wee bit better.  Even Dan said that I was more patient this week than usual (which is sort of embarrassing after having kept track).  But, this is a challenge that I will continue to work on.  In fact, I think I might keep my list going because just making a note of it helped me to snap out of it and then see, collectively, how silly all of the aggravations seemed in retrospect (It became a joke with Dan when I pulled out my iPhone (where I was keeping my list).  Something would happen and I would grit my teeth and silently pull out my phone, or Dan would say, “Do you need to write this one down?”).  And, it pained me to see that so much of my impatience was directed at Dan.  Dan and I are different people and it’s why we work, but it can also be a source of tension.  He is slow and patient, and I like to rush and be efficient.  He is never in a hurry and I am always in a hurry.  I’ve learned that this causes me much more angst than it should.  I also realized that the person that is in a hurry is always the one that is annoyed.  Like on the highway, when you see someone speeding by everyone, getting too close to other cars, zigzagging between lanes, it is he who is stressed, not the ones who sit in the right lane at 55mph and let the wackos fight it out, right?  I think I need to start going 55mph (well, metaphorically).  What am I always in a big hurry for anyway?  Might as well relax and enjoy life.  This all sounds great, but it is much easier said than was done.

Here’s a snippet of my list.  I’m not going to include them all because, well, because I just don’t want to share them all, but here’s a shortened version of the list:

  • Lost patience with Dan at Whole Foods because I thought he was trying to buy more food than we needed and I hate wasting food.
  • The mangy cat outside of our cabin wouldn’t stop trying to jump on my lap the first morning of our trip and he would not let me relax and read my book.  I yelled at it, but it was stupid and would not leave.  I had to read inside and that made me mad.  Peace in the woods?  Not so much that first morning.
  • Snapped at Dan after we did our canopy tour because I thought he was ignoring me because we finally had some cell service and I thought he was being obsessive about checking his phone for all kinds of things.
  • I lost my patience with Dan at Walmart because I had just listed the three things we needed and then he asked what we needed.
  • I lost my patience with Dan at OU because I finally noticed that I had a giant spot of dirt on my shirt and I asked Dan about it and he had been looking at it all day, but didn’t tell me.  Thanks, honey.
  • I lost my patience with Dan when we went on one of our hikes because he was ignoring me and fiddling with the camera for a really long time.  He’s a fiddler.  Oh, how that guy can fiddle.
  • I lost my patience in general because we couldn’t find the dang Mexican restaurant that was in the Hocking Hills guide and we drove 20 minutes out of the way TWICE.  Did I mention that I am even less patient when I’m hungry?
  • I snapped at Dan at the grocery store because he couldn’t pick a line for check out.
  • I snapped at Dan because he took too long taking a bite of my McFlurry (I wanted my McFlurry back!).

Okay, I think that’s enough.  It’s kind of embarrassing to write those down, but what are these challenges for if not to get me out of myself and try to see how I am and how maybe I could be a little better?  Patience, though, patience is not my strong suit.  This is going to take some work.  Looking back at those moments of impatience makes me wonder why I couldn’t just let it go.  Why couldn’t I just let Dan fiddle with the camera from now until kingdom come?  I mean, I have a lot of what I think are good reasons, but mostly I think I just have this need to be in control of situations and when I lose control, I get annoyed.  I have a hard time going with the flow.  I like to make a plan, and then enact the plan.  All deviations are irritating.  We were supposed to be hiking, not standing in the woods fiddling.  Stupid, right?  Yes, I know.  Hopefully I’m learning little by little when a reaction is necessary and when it’s better to let it flow.

God help me.  And God help Dan.

Challenge #24

14 Jun

-Practice complete patience-

This week’s challenge is to practice complete patience. I think what I want this to mean is that I’m going to try my best to stay calm and relaxed, no matter what happens. I’m easily frazzled and it’s something I’m always trying to work on, but there are times that I just let myself get really upset about something that just doesn’t matter. It’s hardly worth the time and energy. So, this week, as I go away for a little break to celebrate my birthday and my anniversary, I am going to be focused on practicing complete patience. In fact, I’m going to keep a log of all of the times I get frustrated (or almost do) just to make sure that I am paying attention. I’m sure Dan will appreciate this week’s challenge. And, maybe it will help me to stop clenching my teeth so much. Here’s hoping.

Who’s with me?!?

Is Walden really Walden?

14 Jun

This week’s challenge was to read Walden, or Life in the Woods by Henry David Thoreau. I have to admit that I only got through half of it, but I do plan on carrying on with it throughout this week, particularly as I go into the woods to stay in a cabin with Dan to celebrate my birthday and our third anniversary. What slowed me up mostly was that the language is dated, and the date is 1854. This caused my eyelids to immediately droop as I started to read words I’d never heard, odd spellings, and odd (to me) arrangements of sentences. For example:

“Even in our democratic New England towns the accidental possession of wealth, and its manifestation in dress and equipage alone, obtain for the possessor almost universal respect.  But they yield such respect, numerous as they are, are so far heathen, and need to have a missionary sent to them.  Beside, clothes introduced sewing, a kind of work which you may call endless; a woman’s dress, at least, is never done.”

What also slowed me up was that I was expecting this to be his journal of daily activity of his time in the woods, but instead, he started with a (too) long rant about the necessities of life. Some of this was quite funny, particularly the part about clothing (see above) and how “we” are so ridiculous about it (which we are, but were we in 1854?). But then there was the long discussion of why we need shelter and what sorts of food we need, etc. I could have lived without it. But, on the topic of food, he scoffed at a farmer that told him he couldn’t live on vegetable (plant) food alone as he noted the farmer was plowing his field behind a 1,000 pound ox, who eats nothing but vegetables. Touche, Thoreau.

He then described how he built his house with a detailed list of how much (or little) the materials cost. The total was around $28. He did eventually get to the day-to-day experiences and I loved that he had an entire chapter just on the sounds that he hears in his little spot in the woods, which included frogs, owls, and trains. I also discovered one of his most famous passages on really living:

“I went to the woods because I wished to live deliberately, to front only the essential facts of life, and see if I could not learn what it had to teach, and not, when I came to die, discover that I had not lived.  I did not wish to live what was not life, living is so dear; nor did I wish to practise resignation, unless it was quite necessary.  I wanted to live deep and suck out all the marrow of life, to live so sturdily and Spartan-like as to put to route all that was not life, to cut a broad swath and shave close, to drive life into a corner, and reduce it to its lowest terms, and, if it proved to be mean, why then to get the whole and genuine meanness of it, and publish its meanness to the world; or if it were sublime, to know it by experience, and be able to give a true account of it in my next excursion.”

Frankly, Thoreau, while advocating the simple life, is quite the elitist snob. He thinks that we should only read “the canon” (you know the classics that are written by old, white men?). It seems that to me that if he is getting back to the nature, he might appreciate local knowledge and storytelling just as much as the canon, but he considers these “simple” in the other sense of the word. He is also quite pleased with himself, living very simply (this time, it’s a good thing), spending little, laboring little, not wasting his time on the toil of the average man. Instead, he can really enjoy life, like it was meant to be enjoyed, thinking, writing, discussing philosophical things, enjoying the simplicity of nature, etc. He dismisses the need for big fancy houses, lots of clothes, lots of technology, etc. This is a conundrum for me for a couple of reasons.

1)  I like to think that I am doing my best to simplify, but at the same time, I am a student of technology, technology that I think in some ways, enhances my humanity. I try to buy less things, drive less, have less, spend time in nature, eat whole foods, etc., but I also blog and check facebook daily, as a way to connect, to document my thoughts and to reflect on life in general. At some point, Thoreau dismisses the necessity of increased communication via the telegraph and even the excessiveness of a daily newspaper. I am dying to know how long his rant would be about the internet.

2)  While I like to think that “natural” or “simple” is best, I also know that these are historically contingent concepts. There’s no “natural” outside of what we think of as unnatural. For example, Thoreau is critiquing 1854 society, one that we would think is quite basic, quite simple and natural. He’s probably responding to the industrial age, but so much of his argument sounds just like the technophobes of today. Is there really a “real?” What would “the real” be? Should we be living in huts? Should we refuse all technologies? That would be difficult because any sort of tool is a technology. Are we being ruined by technology? And for that matter, are we being saved by technology?  There are no answers to these questions because they are all about frames and so any answer is just one answer that exists at this moment in time, as part of a discourse within a certain regime of truth within a specific episteme (to use Foucault’s terms). This all makes me question why I embrace the discourse of “the natural” and “the technological” at the same time, knowing that both are fictions that I choose to hold on to. This made it very confusing to highlight passages that I liked in the book, while questioning why I like them, why I want to like them, and how they are really just a part of a swirling mess of discourses and materialities creating the appearance of some “real” at this particular moment. Hey, I think I can cite this mess in my exams!

On a side note, reading a book on the iPhone was alright. I still like the feel of a “real” book, one where I can feel the pages that I have already passed and that are to come. A bar at the bottom of the screen just doesn’t cut it. I like highlighting and tabbing real pages, but I was impressed that this application (stanza), I was able to mark passages, annotate, and even share quotes with facebook. But, it was kind of hard on the eyes reading on a tiny screen with a backlight. And, people think I’m playing around or texting while I’m reading. Someone on the bus said, “You texting?” “No,” I said, but what I really wanted to say was, “No, I’m reading and annotating Walden while sharing passages with my own personal online community.” How about them apples, Thoreau?

Challenge #23

7 Jun

-Read Walden-

This week’s challenge is to read Walden by Henry David Thoreau.  I feel like it’s one of those books that everyone should read… a great American novel about someone who lived in the woods for two years?  That sounds kind of nice right now.  Dan and I rented a cabin for a few days next week in celebration of my birthday/our anniversary, so this will be good preparation.  And, since I’ve never read it, I’m going to challenge myself to do it.  I already downloaded it to my iPhone for easy access (I don’t know how Thoreau would feel about that).  It’s finals week, and my finals are turned in, so hopefully I won’t feel too guilty about it.  Maybe I can reference to Walden in my exams?  I bet if he would have had the internet, he totally would have blogged for those two years.

Who’s with me?!

Zoe the Zucchini

6 Jun

This week’s challenge was to take care of a plant.  I did my best, but the crazy storms we’ve been having wreaked havoc on Zoe.

Zoe

Monday morning, I actually brought Zoe in from outside, watered her, and then sat her on the table to have breakfast with me.  I even told her a long story about this zucchini plant that started small grew up big and strong (motivation).  This special treatment didn’t last all week.  Tuesday, though, I still checked her water level and brought her inside for a bit (because, you know, plants love to come inside).  Wednesday, we had a crazy storm and when I went out to check on Zoe, her little pot was full of water, so I had to drain it on its side because the pot she’s in doesn’t have a hole in the bottom (that’s a problem).  Thursday, I checked the water level and it still felt moist, so I didn’t add any water.  That night I went home to Canton.  I thought about taking Zoe, but I decided not to.  Friday, I came home, checked the water level again and it still seemed moist (of course, it had been really humid, but I didn’t want to drown Zoe, so I didn’t add any more water that day).  Saturday, there was more rain, so I set Zoe closer to the door so that the ledge would cover her from the rain, then, I moved her back out after the rain had stopped.  This morning, I woke up to another really intense storm and when I went down to check on Zoe after things had calmed down, her pot was completely filled with water again and two of her stems were broken from the wind!  I was sort of devastated, so I drained the pot once again, trimmed the two stems that broke and added some extra potting soil to the pot (I’d lost quite a bit in the two bouts of draining).  This wasn’t such a good week for taking care of a plant.

It was kind of fun though, getting my hands in some soil and checking on the Zoe every day.  Plus, I’m pretty sure I see the beginnings of some blossoms and that’s exciting!  I have decided that I need to continue this challenge until Zoe bears fruit, so I will continue to update as thing happen.  I also, in the near future, need to get a much larger pot with some sort of drain or plant Zoe in the ground.  I’m already scouting some ground in my front yard, but I’m afraid she might accidentally be mowed down.  I just want Zoe to make it long enough that I can eat some zucchini that I actually grew myself.  Wouldn’t that be cool?  I think so.